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When was the last time you admitted you were wrong?

If you insist on being right all the time…if you make being right part of your identity…then you’ve set an impossible standard for yourself. You’ll never be able to accept (love?) the parts of yourself that are wrong.

If you never accept the parts of yourself that are wrong, then you’ll never accept that you may be wrong. You’ll never be able to truly engage with, listen to, or empathize with someone else, because they might show you that you’re wrong.

If you’re never able to truly engage with, listen to, or empathize with others, then you can do nothing but make the world a poorer place.

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On Tone, and what listening means

When you make a tone argument, you’re saying “my comfort with this conversation is more important than listening to you”.

Is that a blanket statement you want to make? Really?

When you make a tone argument, you’re saying “I get to set the bar for participating in this dialogue. No matter how important this topic is to you, no matter how much pain it’s caused you in the past, you still have to meet my standards before I’ll listen to you.”

Do you really think that counts as listening?